My wife and I are a pair of Australians living in NY and have lived here for about 5 years. We enjoy living here. We have some great friends, really enjoy the city and get out and make the most of it when we can. We met in London many moons ago and fell out of touch for a while. After 9 years in London I had an opportunity to move to NY and jumped at it in 2003 . The Mango Princess and I caught up again many years later on a trip I had back to London in July 04 and the rest is history. We “commuted” between London and NY a lot to see each other as much as possible but eventually she decided to move to NY (yay!!!) in May 05. We were engaged in Feb 06 and we had a truly fantastic wedding back in Sydney in Dec 06. We have been trying for kiddies every since with no luck. (fyi – as a complete side note – she is my life. I think she is truly wonderful)
This blog joins the kiddie quest story at around day 850 where were are on our 4th IVF cycle. Cycle 1 was a miscarriage at 7 weeks (wow – what a tough experience). Cycle 2 never had a transfer as we did genetic testing (PGD) on our three little fellas and all were no good and on cycle 3 we got 3 embryos through PGD, but had a chemical pregnancy. So here we are…..
We never did IUI due to my useless little swimmers never really making that an option. I fell over as a kid and landed badly on my nuts. I am thinking 24 years later that its come back to haunt me. I still can get a decent dose (say 5-7million) on the swimmer front, so things could be worse, but sadly well shy of the 20 million a normal guy offloads. So be it. I am truly thankful science exists to even give guys like me a chance at being dads
I am blogging as I would like to find other guys / couples out there who are going through the same sort of thing. Ladies – if you hub has “yogurt truck issues” send him the link and tell him I feel his pain. Infertility is infertility, so many of us have it in different forms but its not easy to find the blokes view out there. I know 99% of this IVF thing is the women’s sacrifice (bless them) but I know there are blokes out there who feel the same pain / angst I do having (at least in part) caused this suffering for their wives. It’s a heavy burden to feel you cause it as you jab her endlessly with needles.. Anyway….
Don’t be afraid to post a comment! I know there is a huge silent throng of people out there going through this like we are. I have found reading other people stories fascinating, motivating and educational. I hope people enjoy my posts and get something out of reading my story, (and a laugh!!). I have no answers, its just another path on one side of a huge canyon, and you are only even on one side (the kid free side) or the other side. There is no in between. Here’s to finding the bridge to the other side!
Best of luck to you all if you are in your own IVFland. Have faith and no matter what happens, we’ll come out of this with a bit more humility . That, I am pretty sure about.
Finally – apologies for crap spelling (my typing sucks) and I promise not to type in all those acronyms like you see on some hard core IVF sites. Lastly – sorry if what I write seems very basic to the IVF vets out there, but I know friends who read this who care about our position / challenge and want to know more about it, so I tend to spell things out a bit. If you don’t have a pass to IVF land you have no idea of the rides and roller coasters we have!